Choosing Yourself In Tough Situations

Life is so complicated.

Sometimes too complicated to the point you may feel like you’re losing yourself. The older I get, the more I realized why my parents are the way they are. You have to fight hard for yourself because everyone wants a piece of you. As I get older, I depend more on God because it’s so easy to lose yourself in the craziness of the world.

A few years back, I found myself in a tough situation where I was losing myself in my relationship. I was madly in love and I knew the relationship might not survive. Yet, I made it a point to dismiss the weight I was carrying because I felt guilty and did not want to hurt the other person’s feelings.


In the whirlwind of the tough situation, I had to step back and truly analyze the situation. One of the questions I asked myself was “Is it worth it to lose myself?”, and the answer was no. It was definitely not worth it.

Some many say choosing yourself in tough situations is selfish but if you crumble, what happens next? It’s important to choose yourself because if you lose yourself, you cannot function. How do you become the best version of yourself when you are not functioning?

If you’re trying to figure out how to choose yourself in a tough situation, keep reading to learn more.

  1. Understand That Without You, Life Will Go On: This is a harsh reality but, it’s the truth. We like to think that we’re the glue that keeps it all together but in reality, if we’re no longer in the picture, life will still go on. Understanding this paints the bigger picture of why you need to choose your well being over anything or anyone. You’re not God and if a situation does not show any likelihood of change, you need to focus on yourself.
  2. You Have To Save Yourself First Or You All Crash: When you get on a plane, the flight safety video always stresses the importance of putting your own oxygen mask on before helping another person. This same theory applies to your daily life as well. You cannot help someone else when you’re drowning.
  3. Self Care Is Choosing Yourself: Again, how do you become the best version of yourself when you’re not taking care of yourself? You need to choose yourself.
  4. The Pain of Today Is Better Than The Pain Of “I Wish I Had”: I know a lot of you can relate to this one. It’s better to do what you need to do when you can than to wait when the loss is greater. I hate looking back at wasted time and resources. Just do what you need to do today.


I hope you found this blog insightful and I hope you use these tips to free yourself from the baggage that’s been holding you back. How do you choose yourself in tough situations? Thanks for reading beauties! Until next time, you can keep up with me on Instagram @iam_Deborah.



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